November–December Class Series
SM Essentials
About the Series
VIRTUAL: Sundays November 6, 15, 22, 29 + December 6 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT. Can’t make class time? Recordings will be sent to students who register in advance.
You can register for the whole series (at a discount) or just the classes you want.
So you’re a sadomasochist: What do you need to know to be a good one? This series covers vital skills and practices for tops, bottoms, switches, and anyone who plays with pain on purpose. We’ll begin with soft skills — building a pain vocabulary, articulating desires, assessing potential partners — then dig into technical training that forms the backbone of safe, enjoyable play, from first aid to flogging. It’s for folks of all skill levels, especially:
players newly exploring sadomasochism who want a strong foundation
experienced players who want to stay fresh & learn new tricks
pros who want more vocab, safety skills, & negotiation tools to use with clients
anyone who struggles to name, share, or navigate their sadomasochistic desires
These classes work well as a set, but you can enjoy them separately! Each class is sliding scale, and you get a discount when you sign up for the full series.
Learn about individual classes below, or register here.
How to Be a Sadist: Lessons from the Field
— with Dagger
Sunday November 8 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
It took me a decade of pain topping to finally call myself a sadist. From internalized shame about wanting something “weird,” to healthy fears of going too far, to feeling anxiously unrepresented by common explanations of our desires (Pain is just another form of pleasure; it’s all about fulfilling the masochist’s fantasy), being a sadist comes with loads of messy feelings, misinformation, and coping mechanisms that get in the way of our play. This class digs into what sadism actually is, why we like it, and how we navigate doing the fucked-up things we want to do. In particular, we’ll explore strategies for balancing safety with ethics, ensuring bottoms have agency so we can relax, and staying present during play instead of getting stuck in our heads. Your own experiences are an important part of this discussion; sharing is highly encouraged!
Register here.
The Pain We Want: Essential Skills for Masochism
— with Dagger
Sunday November 15 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
Your pain play toolkit isn’t just the toys in your bag: It’s also your ability to notice what’s happening in your body, your knowledge of which sensations you love (or hate) and why, your limits, risk profile, and coping strategies when things don’t go as planned. This class is designed to help tops, bottoms, and switches alike navigate pain play more effectively. We’ll build a vocabulary of different sensations and play styles, learn skills for getting in touch with our own pain responses, and troubleshoot common issues that arise during pain scenes, including how to minimize the risk of unexpected or unwanted results.
Content note: This class includes a short, optional, off-camera exercise involving self-administered pain. It does NOT include visual representations or intense descriptions of injury.
Register here.
First Aid for Kink
— with Dio
Sunday November 22 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
We carry shears to cut rope and contain our sharps in special containers — but how many of us know how to spot a concussion, react to a fall, or triage a wound that bleeds more than expected? Learn to prepare for the worst and expect the unexpected (without overpacking) with guidance from a previously licensed EMT, certified in AED/First Aid with over 11 years of experience and training. We’ll explore basic first aid for mishaps in the dungeon, the legal implications of the play we enjoy, and how to call for help.
Please note: This class does NOT offer any certification.
About the instructor: Dio (they/he) is a trans leatherqueer, switch, Bootblack, and educator in the Hudson Valley, NY, who uses their professional background in health, violence prevention, and teaching — as well as their 13+ years experience in kink — to create safe, accessible community spaces, including Hudson Valley Kennel Club (cofounder, board member) and Dyke Nite Hudson Valley (host). Dio regularly presents at major kink events (IMsLBB, IPTC, Dark Odyssey, Folsom St East) and was ranked Hudson Valley’s Sexiest Armpit 2025.
Register here.
Everything You Need to Know About Impact Play
— with Dagger
Sunday November 29 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
A class on the fine art of hitting people with things! Impact play is many people’s absolute favorite kink, and one of the most satisfying to learn and deliver. This everything-you-need class begins with a rundown on how (and where!) to hit safely and tips for successful negotiation and warmup, then dives in with live demonstrations and technique walkthroughs on a wide range of implements. We’ll cover slapping, spanking, punching, paddling, riding crops, canes, evil sticks, and (time permitting) the audience’s choice of “weird” toys from my collection — from leather tentacles to gardening tools to an electro-conductive paddle made of barbed wire.
Register here.
Flogging for Pleasure & Pain
— with sudisa
Sunday December 6 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
This class explores flogging — a specific form of impact play — with a focus on expressing both the sensual and the sadistic while building connection. Whether you’re drawn to the hypnotic rhythm of a thuddy suede flogger or the sharp bite of stingy leather tails, this class will guide you through the emotional, psychological, and physical dynamics that make sensual and sadistic play so intoxicating.
About the instructor: sudisa (she/her) is a skilled top and Domme and has been active in the local community for over ten years. It was on a whim during the summer of 2017 that she purchased a matched set of floggers and quickly mastered Florentine flogging. The following year, she presented at a local dungeon and has continued presenting classes at local venues and regional events. She is always happy to demonstrate the art of flogging with others. When she isn’t flogging, sudisa enjoys going out for afternoon tea and spending time with her husband.
Register here.
Register for the full series (at a discount), or pick just the ones you want.
What to Expect:
All virtual classes are live on Zoom. You’ll receive everything you need via email as soon as you register. Most are two hours long, including time for Q&A. Can’t make the class time? As long as you register by class time (or for a series, as long as you register by the final class), you’ll get access to the recording. Recordings will be available to watch until the next series of classes begins. After that, the only way to access them will be via the recorded class library on Patreon. (Classes get added there two months after the original series.) For more information on recordings, check the FAQ.
Get Licked! is for everyone: queer, straight, trans, cis, binary, non, monogamous, polyamorous, kinky, vanilla, and all other folks are welcome. Be kind to each other and help each other learn. We are here in community.
Many classes include activities to help you grasp material and build skills. Participation is encouraged, but never required. Listen to your body, and do what feels good for you.
Still have questions? Check the FAQ, or reach out using my contact form here.