February Class Series:
Playing With Power
About the Series
VIRTUAL: Sundays February 2, 9, 16, and 23 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT. Class recordings will be available to students who register in advance.
You can register for the whole series (at a discount) or just the classes you want.
What is power play? Why do we enjoy it? How can we do it better? This class series dives into the pleasure we find in handing over — or taking — control. Rather than taking a “beginner” or “advanced” approach, each class is designed to be both approachable for folks just starting to explore and a toolkit for serious players to deepen their relationship with kink. It’s great for people who:
are new to navigating — or sometimes struggle navigating — playing with power and pain
already love this kind of play and want to deepen their understanding and communication skills
feel nervous about letting their partner down by saying “no,” asking for “too much,” or not being dominant, submissive, or switchy “enough”
feel comfy on one side of the slash and want to explore outside their usual role(s)
These four classes work great together — the classes on dominance and submission, in particular, make a great pair for understanding both sides of the dynamic — but each one is designed to be useful without prior experience or information from other classes.
Learn about individual classes below, or register here.
Ouch! Don’t Stop: Exploring Masochism
Sunday Feb 2 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
Why choose pain? From saunas and rollercoasters to cathartic flogging and skin staples, people seek out intense sensations for pleasure, excitement, and healing. This class explores playing with pain from a masochistic perspective and offers tools, vocabulary, and exercises for figuring out what we like, why we like it, and how to get it.
In particular, we’ll focus on how to discover and articulate what we want to get out of a painful experience — such as particular sensations, pacing, and play styles — and how to minimize the risk of unexpected or unwanted results.
Content notes: This class includes a short, optional, off-camera exercise involving self-administered pain. It does NOT include visual representations or intense descriptions of pain or injury.
Pleasure in Your Hands: Exploring Dominance
Sunday Feb 9 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
Myth: You have to “be” or “become” dominant to enjoy dominance.
Myth: You have to be “kinky” to enjoy D/s.
Myth: D/s is all about the dominant’s desires.
Myth: D/s is all about the submissive’s desires.
This class digs into power play from the dominant perspective. We’ll explore what dominance is, how to identify and express our desires to give and take pleasure while holding authority, and how to work through insecurity that doms often face while trying to balance their desires with partners’ expectations. This class includes several exercises that we’ll do as a group or in breakout rooms, depending on class size.
This workshop includes concepts from the Wheel of Consent® as presented by Dr. Betty Martin. I have not studied with Martin, but I adore her work. For more information visit www.schoolofconsent.org
Let Me Take That For You: Exploring Submission
Sunday Feb 16 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
What do we gain when we give up power? This class — for doms, subs, switches, and the curious — explores submissive desire as a rich combination of active, passive, leading, following, being brought down, and being lifted up. We’ll begin by mapping our desires, including our desires to please our partners, and then dig into four major themes in submission — being useful, being passive, being reduced, and belonging — and how we can use them in practice.
This workshop includes concepts from the Wheel of Consent® as presented by Dr. Betty Martin. I have not studied with Martin, but I adore her work. For more information visit www.schoolofconsent.org
Fluid Dynamics: Exploring Switching
Sunday Feb 23 at 7–9pm ET / 4–6pm PT
Power play isn’t a binary, and most people don’t fit neatly into boxes labeled “sub” or “dom,” “bottom” or “top.” This class examines switching — moving or living between roles — as a preference, a practice, an identity, and a relationship dynamic. We’ll explore what switching can look like in different contexts — such as within a single scene, within a power relationship, and within switchy or fluid relationships — as well as what switching means as an identity and how to get our needs met.
Register for all four classes (at a discount) here, or pick just the ones you want.
What to Expect:
All virtual classes are live on Zoom. You’ll receive everything you need via email as soon as you register. Most are two hours long, including time for Q&A. Can’t make the class time? Classes will be recorded, so if you can’t attend live, you can still get all the info, as long as you register before the class starts. I hope to offer recorded classes a la carte at some point, but they’re not available yet!
Get Licked! is for everyone: queer, straight, trans, cis, binary, non, monogamous, polyamorous, kinky, vanilla, and all other folks are welcome. Be kind to each other and help each other learn. We are here in community.
Many classes include activities to help you grasp material and build skills. Participation is encouraged, but never required. Listen to your body, and do what feels good for you.
Still have questions? Reach out using my contact form here.